The main gift we’re asking of you is to come celebrate with us, which might involve traveling a long distance. For that reason, we are not making a registry, and we are not asking for cash instead.

Of course, we understand that giving a gift can be a way people express love. If that is you—if giving us something would genuinely bring you joy—we will accept it wholeheartedly and with a lot of gratitude. And please do not think that a gift needs to be expensive, useful, or even something you can buy. We love to cook, for example, and a favorite family recipe would be a beautiful and generous gift. A letter, a story, or simply a memory would be something we would treasure.

More than anything we want to celebrate our love with the people we love. The fact that the two of us made it here—to this life and to each other—is, in part, because of the people who have loved us, supported us, taught us things, made us laugh, invited us in, and shaped us along the way.